Annulment is an expensive and tedious process. (Sorry, no divorce yet in the Philippines! As if that’s a lesser evil?) I know for sure because I had a first hand information from an old college friend who went through the process of annulment. (you know who you are!) However, in her case, the newly-gained freedom and being single again is all worth all that - as much be in most annulments.

Granted that if your marriage is difficult or abusive, annulment for the first time is understandable. I have always been supportive of a woman’s right and her freedom to choose — including getting out of an oppressive marriage that is just not going anywhere.

However if you are going to file for annulment the second time (or the third time!), parang hindi na kapani-paniwala. I’m talking about Aiko Melendez! ;-)

To me it seems stupid to fall into that same trap once more. You should have learned the first time and should not have jumped into a second marriage. Not into any marriage at all, even if you are pregnant. Yes, I’ve realized that now. No out-of-wedlock pregnancy should be the reason for marriage. There must be valid reasons beyond that.

Luckily, in Aiko’s case, money must not be a problem in pursuing an annulment case. Even so, yung emotional lamat sa pagkatao parang hindi mababayaran. I wonder what stopped her from just living together with her second husband? Considering the it is like the norm in show business?

But anyway, I can just speculate. My point is, if you’ve been burned at first, you should be more careful the next time, right? A second annulment (or divorce) should not be in your path at all which you have the power to prevent from happening, I think.  Like choosing carefully, or living together perhaps? Or doing your part to make the marriage work? He he he. What do you think?