In lieu of Fathers’ Day…I’ve just realized that all my brothers are fathers now.
Read on to find out.
Brother # 1
Married at age 30. Son is now in kinder 1. He married his very first girlfriend. Like Papa, he is the best guy I’ve ever known.
Brother #2
Got some woman from Palawan pregnant in 2006. Bore her a son. My brother isn’t sure if the kid is really his. But I supported the kid anyway for a year. Of course I had no choice, my brother was (and still is) a college student. He and the girl had a falling out. We haven’t seen the kid — we just know his name is Liam. He must already be 3-years-old this year.
Brother # 3
Graduated from college in March. 2 months later he got a job. Girlfriend is currently 6 months pregnant. We just found out last week. That’s why he was desperate to find a job right away. He’s got no plans of marrying the girlfriend, he said. At least not yet. But he said we shouldn’t worry. He’ll take care of everything. Mama is worried anyway. I am worried anyway!
I’m not really surprised. The way the twins are with their girlfriends, someone will get pregnant sooner or later. I even said to them one time (jokingly of course, pero may laman)…mura naman yata ang condom, imbes mag load kayo ng cellphone nyo eh ibili nyo na lang ng condom.
Maybe they missed buying one. OR maybe just plain stupid? Maybe they should take a refresher course in biology. I said stupid kasi nangyari na sa isa, gumaya pa yung isa.
At wag nilang sasabihin na gumaganti sila sa mga babae because of what happened to me. I didn’t tell them any crap about such things.
I’m just a little disappointed with the twins. In their generation na talamak ang info about contraceptives…di pa nag-ingat. Well…di naman ako ang magdurusa sa pag-sustento sa mga mag-ina nila. When all I wanted was a better life for them. Matatali rin pala sa cycle ng maagang pag-aasawa at pagkakaroon ng anak na wala sa plano.
I had a stable job when i got pregnant. I didn’t ask my family anything, but their moral support. In fact I was heavily pregnant and about to give birth and i was still sending money here in bicol. I even sent them money for fare to join me in LB that December. We spent Christmas together in my apartment. December 29, Raine arrived. The more reason to celebrate New Year’s day together.
All I’m saying is that…they can’t even support themselves yet. I even buy them clothes, underwears and socks. Even if brother # 1 is paying their tuition, the daily grind is even more expensive. Fare, baon, school projects, etc, etc.
You get the picture.
Goodluck na lang sa kanila! Real life isnt easy, nor is it fair. College isn’t the real world. It’s life after graduation that is. You are supposed to enjoy it. Enjoy singlehood. Enjoy your salary. Go places. Pursue a career. All that stuff.
Because of what they did, their life after college will be child support, diaper patrol and all the stuff that raising a baby is made of.
Goodluck talaga!
June 17th, 2009 at 10:40 am
well, ganyan talga minsan. (some) young guys need to be slapped with reality before nila maintindihan, despite our constant reminder. yep, i sympathize with you, got brothers too di ba? the good thing is they’ll learn, eventually.
June 17th, 2009 at 10:43 am
yeah…
thanks ging!
June 18th, 2009 at 10:14 am
hi, glo. all my brothers are fathers na din. of all the 3, 1 lang ang nag-pamilya ng maayos. nag-pakasal on time na hindi pregnant ang babae. yung 2 na younger, same story. stupid nga yung youngest, kasi ginawa na ng kuya nya, tinularan pa. oh well. but i agree with you. condom! or any safe sex practice, whatever is comfortable di ba? hay… tayong mga ate…
June 18th, 2009 at 10:28 am
hello clem, salamat sa comment mo. isa pang reason bakit ako naiinis at disappointed sa dalawang brothers ko: kasi kahit money problems sa anak, sa akin tumtakbo. yang tiga-palawan, ura-urada sa pera nung na-hospital daw ang anak. eh di binigyan ko ng pera ang kapatid ko.
i can see that happening too dito sa isa pa. eh di pa naman regular sa work. nag start lang last month. ang liit pa ng suweldo! so hihingi na naman sa akin at dun sa isa ko pang kapatid na matino ang buhay.
syempre kapatid ko sila, kahit galit na ako di ko pa rin sila matiis. pag humingi ng tulong sa akin, pag kaya ko. binibigay ko ang kelangan.
hayyy…i have to learn to draw the line somewhere though. matuto sila sa hirap ng buhay!
June 18th, 2009 at 10:32 am
kaso pag di ko bigyan? mangungutang ang nanay ko para may ibigay sa kanila. eh sino mag-babayad ng utang? EH DI AKO DIN!
hayyy…
bakit ba ganito ang buhay ko. minsan gusto ko nang magpaka-layo-layo. yung tipong di nila ako maco-contact sa layo ko. para di ako obliged na tumulong.
kaso minsan naiisip ko eh wala naman silang iab na matakbuhan.;)
so eto, i’m stucked. hahaha!!!
June 22nd, 2009 at 4:17 pm
glo, it’s important for you to set/draw the line kasi you have your own child. of course priority mo si raine, and also (do not forget this) to set aside for yourself. e ako single na single kaya ayun, talagang matindi rin ang expectation, especially sa bunso namin. na hindi ko naman matiis. they’re not needy naman, pero minsan ibibili ko na lang ng bisyo ko (read: fountain pens and notebooks) talagang iisipin ko pa at baka later on may bibilhin ang bata e walang pera ang dad nya e di kay ninang (read: me) ang takbo. phew!
June 22nd, 2009 at 8:46 pm
thanks for the reminder clem. i keep telling myself those as well, these days.
June 25th, 2009 at 10:55 am
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